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Enmeshment Resilience Questionnaire (ERQ)
Developed by Kenneth Adams, Ph.D.
Please keep in mind that your score is not an absolute measure of resilience. The score is based on a series of items that have been observed in the population reporting enmeshment with a parent but could be present for other reasons as well. In general, the higher the score the more likely you are to feel resilient and assert yourself in the face of obligation or guilty demands from a parent or family member. This survey is best used as a starting point of discussion with a therapist to determine how best to become resilient in the face of enmeshment.
Place a mark in the circle on the right with the most accurate answer under each statement:
Definitely true | Probably true | Not sure | Probably Not True | Definitely Not True | |
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There were times my enmeshing parent (EP) respected my need for separateness when I was growing up. | |||||
My other parent made attempts to help separate me from my EP. | |||||
My EP displayed love without leaving me feeling obligated to reciprocate or to take care of their feelings and problems. | |||||
My other parent did things with me separate from my EP. | |||||
My parents displayed a strong romantic bond. | |||||
When I was a child, relatives or other adults noticed my EP’s impact on me and tried to help. | |||||
Members of my extended family supported my independence and separateness from my EP and were careful not to imply guilt or obligation. | |||||
Someone in my family encouraged me to participate in activities that I was interested in. | |||||
Other trusted adults outside my family did things with me separate from my EP. | |||||
I had someone to confide in about my EP when I was growing up |
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| Enmeshment Resilience Questionnaire (ERQ) #0000004283 | On August 2, 2025 3:57 pm | |
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| First Name | Jorge |
| Last Name | Morejon |
| jmbeni1463@aol.com | |
| Score Obtained | 2.00 out of 10.00 (20.00%) |
| Designation | Enmeshment Resilience Questionnaire (ERQ) |
| The more protective factors marked (“Definitely True” or “Probably True”) the more likely you are able to resist obligatory demands and guilt messages from your EP and feel free to lead your own separate life leading to romantic and professional satisfaction. The fewer factors circled, the more likely you are to need specific strategies to help with creating an independent life. Take this questionnaire to your therapist if you have any concerns.Please note that the items in the questionnaire are based on antidotal clinical observations and are not correlated with any other measure of resiliency or treatment outcomes. The ERQ is best used along with other measures to help you decide how best to deal with an enmeshing parent. | |
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